so..

I feel like I should offer some sort of explanation for not posting on here in months… but I honestly have no valid excuse as to why I haven’t been responding to messages, making the pictures and posting them, anything. I’m really sorry. However, I have read every single message you all have sent, and I appreciate those of you who have asked to make sure I am okay, and I am. 

I guess I came to a point where I wasn’t enjoying this as much as I used to. Instead of being super excited & looking forward to making the pictures, talking to everyone, and being super helpful and happy, I started to feel like it was just not making me happy anymore… Which is bad. 

I began to get on here less and less, and finally I stopped posting altogether. Again, I would just really like to apologize. 

However, I don’t think I’m going to start running this blog like I had in the past again. If any of you need to talk to someone right away anonymously, www.imalive.org is great. 

I’ve had this blog for over a year and it definitely changed me as a person, as well as helped me overcome self-harm/other issues so I want to thank all of you for being apart of that. 

I will keep this blog up so you can still go through old posts, etc., however if you’d like to contact me my personal blog is st-randed.tumblr.com, you can message me on facebook, kik me (my kik is kaitlindarby), or even message me on youtube.

I love all of you so much, and stay beautiful.

-Kaitlin.
Anonymous: Your recent posts have made me really happy. I have been struggling with depression, but I have been overcoming it and haven't cut for eight months, even though I've had the urge too. I won't surrender to this battle

i’m proud of you <3

This is kind of random, but I just wanted to tell somebody. I&#8217;ve been struggling with self-harm for a little over 4 years now; it started when I was 13. There have been periods where I have stopped for a while, but I always ended up going back to it. Recently it started to get really bad because I started to restrict my calories too. But I&#8217;ve had a surge of strength lately, and finally realized that I don&#8217;t need to hurt myself. It doesn&#8217;t make me happy, it doesn&#8217;t do anything to help my problems, and it hurts the people I care about. I&#8217;ve decided I&#8217;m done with the nonsense it causes. I want to be happy, and that&#8217;s what I&#8217;m doing. I&#8217;ve stopped the cutting and the starving, and I&#8217;m actually starting to feel good about myself again. I feel beautiful and full of life. And I took this picture to help other people on their journey to recovery as well. I&#8217;ll admit, I was crying a bit because I&#8217;m so relieved to have finally gotten through this. So here&#8217;s to the kids who are ready to recover. &lt;3
Anonymous: Hey i need some advice. I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 2 months now and I am starting to loose my feelings for him, and I am starting to like my bestfriend (he's a boy). My bestfriend knows that I don't like my boyfriend very much anymore and I'm not sure if I should break up with my boyfriend and tell my bestfriend I like him or keep going out with my boyfriend and not tell my bestfriend I lik him.

If you’re not happy in the relationship, don’t stay in it. Now with your best friend, I think you should wait a little while and see how things go before you automatically jump into another relationship. Hope that I helped.

Anonymous: honest to go beyond serious question, how do you get a boy to like you? its so stunningly beyond frustrating these days. help.

well the thing is, you don’t “get a boy to like you”. you just be nice and be yourself! don’t go out of your way to impress him, because he needs to like you FOR you. not anything else.

I want you to message me!

I want to get to know some of you better so message me so we can talk! :) I’ll be responding privately and when I do that it comes from my personal account which is st-randed, so yeah. :) 
Happy holidays!

Whatever you celebrate, or regardless if you celebrate anything, hope it’s wonderful and filled with love and family. I love you all so much! 

Stay beautiful everybody. <3

-Kaitlin